Why I like this, in the context of this blog:

• When I first saw it I was touched deeply. It was our young friend Louis today, who had just given each of us a massage, on his way out the door, who brought up the link.
• It goes to men's need to define themselves in a feminizing world. (Ketan was typically provocative about Scandinavian men, accusing them of being emasculated ;-))
• It goes to the value of the masculine principle in a personal and professional relationship

Kasey Chambers, covered by Spooky Men's Chorale

Am I not pretty enough

Is my heart too broken

Do I cry too much

Am I too outspoken

Don't I make you laugh

Should I try it harder

Why do you see right through me

I live, I breathe, I let it rain on me

I sleep, I wake, I try hard not to break

I crave, I love, I've waited long enough

I try as hard as I can

I laugh, I feel, I make believe it's real

I fall, I freeze, I pray down on my knees

I hope, I stand, I take it like a man

I try as hard as I can

The talk about being couples, resilience, improvisation etc. reminds me of this video from TED. The main point - to me - is what we focus on. Like in this presentation how do we listen in a world getting louder and louder. How do we chose to focus and on what in a world where possibilities are popping up all the time.

Only when you love ...

Our Skype conversation inspired me to share a curiosity I have. It is about "resilience" and "love".

We talked about ideas that spring from the circumstance that we are three couples and that we all work with growth; of people, businesses, capacity, ideas, relationships and consciousness.

Resilience and love came up.

They are certainly important qualities - both when it comes to living as a couple and also when doing the kind of growth work that we do. And somehow they seem to be related. Resilience and love talk together, maybe depend on each other.

My curiosity is about learning how we can use love to make what we care about more resilient.

It has something to do with the inner state from which we operate and how we relate to the world around us. And I am sure we can inspire each other and learn from each other. Especially while sitting together in front of a fireplace in beautiful Budapest covered with snow.

(I took the picture in Heathrow airport when travelling to Brisbane in 2009 to see Michael and Ludmilla. Maybe it can teach us something.)

Sundry notes from our skype meeting, 2 October

The value of exchange - what we have to share, what we have to learn.

Affiliation (belonging) and validation (personal meaning).

Relationship(s).

Balance.

Love.

Resilience.

Improvisation.